“There’s a Dead Dad’s Club and you’re not in it ‘til you’re in it...I’m sorry you had to join the club.”

Dr. Christina Yang – “Grey’s Anatomy”

I lost my father in 2001 to stomach cancer, I was 29 years old, he was 69. Life as I knew it was shattered into a million pieces; I simply fell apart. At the time, I searched for solace in self-help books and therapy sessions, but what really helped me was writing about it in my journals, speaking to other women who could relate and of course, the passage of time.

Two years after he passed away I wrote down an idea for a book that could help lift women up while they were nursing the hole in their heart. My idea was to gather stories, poems, journal entries etc, written by women who had lost their dads and publish them. A book that women of all ages could turn to in their time of grief, for a word of encouragement, of joy, of inspiration. A warm hug of sympathy at a time of deep despair.

Now, five years after having my initial idea, a sequence of serendipitous events has led me to rekindle the idea. I am working on it fastidiously, full steam ahead (during kids’ naps and at night). My first step was to ask my friends and family who have lost their dads to contribute. They in turn have told people and as I move forward, more and more women keep popping up that want to be involved. The initial responses from all the women have been overwhelmingly positive. I just know that this book is meant to be.

My next step is to begin writing about it in this blog. Who knows what kind of interest I will drum up in cyberspace...

I have included below some of my initial thoughts about the book and what I hope to accomplish. I am looking for submissions from any and all women who have lost their dad, any age and any circumstance. The pain is universal but each individual story is unique.

I loved my Dad more than anything. I miss him more than words. And that is the main impetus for creating this book. It’s an ode to my father...to all the lost fathers out there. And it’s a therapeutic glass of wine with women of “the club” who want to commiserate and celebrate their loss, together. I want it to be as beneficial for those that are contributing, as it is for those that read it. I want them all to know it gets better.

It aches, it bleeds, it overwhelms...it gets better.

It’s universal, it’s uniquely your own...it gets better.

You’re not alone, it’s okay to have those feelings...it gets better.

It never goes away but it does get better.

If you are reading this and have lost your father, first and foremost I am sorry for your loss. If you would like to contact me about this project or send me a submission for consideration in the book please email me at mbgodwin@gmail.com. If you are reading this and have not lost your father, go give him a hug and know that this book will someday exist for you if you ever need it.

IT GETS BETTER
Stories of loss, grief, redemption and joy
from Daughters who have lost their Dad.

MY MISSION – ON A GLOBAL LEVEL
1) To offer solace and comfort to women that have gone through the devastating loss of their father. To help them:
Know what they are feeling is normal
Know they are not alone
Know that it gets better

2) To bring together the women of “the club.”

3) To allow women contributing an avenue to release some grief in a positive way through their writings and commemorate their father in a timeless manner.

4) To explore and portray the precious relationships between dads and daughters.

5) To juxtapose the universality of grief as well as the uniqueness of everyone’s individual stories

6) To raise money for and awareness of Hospice.

ON A PERSONAL LEVEL
1) I want to turn my “pity party” into something positive.
2) Pay if forward and make my dad proud.
3) To help myself and others feel close to our dads again.

First Round Submissions Deadline - December 11th, 2008

Second Round Submissions Deadline - January 21st, 2009

FINAL SUBMISSION DEADLINE - MARCH 18th, 2009